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Danét Palmer's avatar

I resonate deeply with you, with the knowing and wisdom to live softly and open-hearted … I’ve felt something new being born or perhaps awakened since my husband transitioned… and these months have been soft and precious and immensely vulnerable, while filled with infinite, divine love— constantly evolving in subtle moving life filling my awareness with attention to only this, now - which is perfectly, imperfectly enough. Thank you

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Justyna Cyrankiewicz's avatar

Dear Danét,

Thank you so much for sharing this part of your story. I am deeply sorry to hear about your husband’s passing. I, too have experienced the loss of a beloved partner, and it opened me to depths of love and vulnerability I never knew before, and would likely never have realised if it weren’t for him creating the space in which I could fall apart, and, with time and trust, begin to grow anew.

It’s the Love Underneath the Love that sustains us in such moments, something I wrote about a while ago. In this love, our hearts grow more courageous, more certain of their own resilience and vast potential to contain all expressions of life, even those that are completely life-altering. As we no longer participate in the direct exchange of loving gestures and words, this love that we carry deep within us resurfaces and upholds us so we can learn to walk once more.

It is beautiful that you recognise something awakening within you as you, too, transition from one experience of reality to another. I’m holding you in those tender moments of breaking through your own soil to sprout, grow, and ripen, over and over again. I’m also sending you strength and deep-rooted peace, as I know that while these times offer to us generously, they also take from us just as much. Above all, I hope you trust in your own strength born from vulnerability.

With love,

Justyna

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Peter Webb's avatar

Being

is like the ocean itself.

May we return to our source,

happy that we have lived

honest to ourselves.

Are all its' drops alike ?

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Justyna Cyrankiewicz's avatar

Beautiful! Thank you so much for this contribution, Peter

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Forrest Beway's avatar

how to honor your words... your courage... your wisdom and delicate, profound sensitivity... how to honor you, you as you are... I can only think about the silence of the mind... the light of the heart... and a song, the song of life... or maybe the lyrics of this other song... more terrenal... this is what comes to my mind to cherish your being and be grateful for you, for all of you, all your words, breath, hum ... all of you is sacred... including your rage...all of you is divine... and I honor you 🙏

I adapted this song from nick cave... to timidly honor you as you always are

I don't believe in an interventionist God

But maybe you do

if I did, I would kneel down and ask him

not to intervene when it came to you

not to touch a hair on your head

Leave you as you are

And I don't believe in the existence of angels

But reading you I wonder if that's true

if I did, I would summon them together

And ask them to watch over you

Well, to each burn a candle for you

To make bright and clear your path

And to walk, like Christ, in grace and love

And yes, I believe in unconditional love

And I know that you do too

And I believe in some kind of path

That we all humans can walk

So keep your candles burning

Make the journey bright and pure

like you are

Always and evermore

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Justyna Cyrankiewicz's avatar

Forrest, as always, this is utterly beautiful! Thank you.

This is also the simplest yet most accurate expression of our potential to recognise ourselves in others and to honour what we see: "How to honor you, you as you are... I can only think about the silence of the mind."

Grateful for your words and for you taking the time to read mine!

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Wander Woman's avatar

Thank you for this candid writing. I find it so beautiful to realize how interconnected we all are..having experiences that mirror even though the stories are often so different. I encourage you to continue writing from this depth and softness. I feel your truth trembling in uncertainty..however there is nothing to fear when embodying this! We must all do it together. Supporting and holding space along the way..thank you for sharing. Know all of humanity is right there with you whether each individual knows it or not.

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Justyna Cyrankiewicz's avatar

Thank you so much for this, Christine. It is very reassuring and brings warmth to my heart.

You spotted it very well—I, too, feel my truth trembling in uncertainty. The effort now is to embody it more fully and to hold space in which it can blossom.

Immensely grateful for your support and for the reminder that I'm in this journey with everyone else, and everyone else is in it with me.

Sending hugs!

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Robinson Haag's avatar

Your words are touching my soul Justyna

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Justyna Cyrankiewicz's avatar

Thank you for letting yourself be touched and moved, Robinson :)

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Megan Youngmee's avatar

beautiful words and deep wisdom here. Thank you for this sharing. Here with you on the journey. with vulnerability, doing our best to embody and live the things we know. I think a lot about meaning and significance/signifiers. https://substack.com/@meganyoungmee/p-141781661

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Justyna Cyrankiewicz's avatar

Dear Megan, thank you so much for taking the time to read, and for joining me on this journey. I deeply respect your work and the insights and help you share with your community. Honoured to be connected here, and I will be following to see where your part of the journey takes You!

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Megan Youngmee's avatar

Glad to be with you! Together sister.

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Justyna Cyrankiewicz's avatar

🙏🤍

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